If you aren’t yourself, then who are you

Have you ever experienced someone making fun of the way you simply are? Maybe it’s the way you dress, talk, smile, laugh, or maybe you’ve been made fun of for the things you enjoy doing?  Being disrespected can form hurtful wounds that may cause you to want to hide; not only from those who have…

How to Reclaim Our Identity and Beauty

“In my deepest wound I saw your glory, and it dazzled me.”  St. Augustine If you are anything like me, I love chick flicks and Disney movies! For so many years my expectations of love and men came from what I learned from, The Wedding Planner or my all-time favorite How to lose a guy…

The Manliest Thing a Man Can Do

Two of my best friends are getting married!  Just a few weeks ago, I had dinner with Andrew and Marie who will be wed on May 2nd.  They shared a few stories including Andrew’s proposal to his now fiancé at the beach. In our conversation, I decided to put Andrew on the spot.  So I…

Do Guys Struggle with Body Image?

For so much of my life, I’ve been faced with pressure as a man to look a certain way. As an athlete especially, I had to be muscular: six pack abs, big biceps, ability to squat and bench a lot of weight. The goal was for my body to fit this mold of what others…

Are All Men Destined to be Cheaters?

On February fifteenth, Hannah and I set off to speak internationally in the beautiful and far off land of Tecate, Mexico. Okay, it wasn’t a very far off place and hardly felt international (I am quite familiar with the area of Baja California), nonetheless it was beautiful and the adventure was unforgettable! As we crossed…

My Dad & Making Things New

What do you want? What do you need? Almost twenty years ago I held in my hands a small wooden flute in the form of an elephant. It was my favorite toy that week, and it was broken. Lucky for me, we had something special in our house. This thing fascinated me. This thing was…

Fighting for Fatherhood

“How do you wanna live? As a decent person? Good husband? Is that it? Good? Of course not. King of the hill? Better. Top of your game? Win. All-powerful. Like a boss. Like a pro.” “GMC wonders how you want to live your life. It challenges the idea of simply being a decent person or…

Friends With Benefits

It was a summer in college and I wanted a boyfriend. To change things up, I created an okCupid profile, put my best photos and made myself sound amazing. After a series of first dates that didn’t go anywhere, I get a message from this charming and attractive young guy. He asked me to meet…