Is It Too Late For Me?

A college student approached me and asked if we could talk. We sat down and he began to tell me about how he was actively involved in the hook-up culture. He would go to bars, meet women, get drunk, and wake up with them the next day wondering what had happened. He told me, “I…

No Examination, No virtue

How have I loved today? Imagine if this question was the last thing you pondered each and every day. Personally, I am so far from that. My day usually ends with turning the lights off and hopping on my phone or totally ignoring the last 16 hours that I spent awake by going straight to…

Get Over Yourself

“Man cannot find himself except through a sincere gift of self.” I was recently helping out at a Sophomore retreat, sharing the message of chastity and the beauty of authentic love. Love that demands something of us…or maybe even everything of us. Going into small groups after my presentation, I didn’t realize the battle I…

The Thief of Joy

Theodore Roosevelt once said “Comparison is the thief of  joy.” This pierces right through me; he is so right. Whenever we compare our brokenness, our weakness, our wounds, our flaws, whether they be physical, intellectual or spiritual, we lose sight of the gift that we are; we lose sight of our uniqueness. We dehumanize ourselves;…

You don’t have to white knuckle it!

First off, let me begin by saying, you are loved! Amidst your struggles or if you read this with the intention of speaking with a friend who struggles with an addiction to pornography, remember that fact. Secondly, let me debunk the idea of “white knuckling.” We tend to believe that the only thing we have…

Identity & Sexuality

Who am I? Even though our culture places a huge emphasis on sexual identity and attraction, the reality is that sexuality and attraction are a part of identity, but not the basis. Certainly, my identity is inseparable from my sexuality, because it is a significant aspect of my humanity and most definitely influences my experience…

Responding To Our Suffering

How do we respond when faced with suffering? I know often times, I am quick to run to the things of the world looking for comfort though I know that I should run to God first. Why is it that we so often choose to run away from Him? Rather we seek to find happiness…

But I love him.

When I was in high school my principal brought in a chastity speaker. I explicitly remember not wanting to give the speaker the time of day, especially when she told me that I should not be sexually active with my boyfriend and that a conversation about boundaries needed to happen. Like, WHO ARE YOU and…