Inviting God into My PMS … And Why Men Were Part of His Answer

My whole life I have heard people tell me “ You are so hypersensitive, Kiki!” or “ You are too emotional!” Hearing those comments in the midst of crying for no reason, crying out of deep sadness or crying out of anger did not help me understand myself, but resent myself for being the way…

An Island Called “Your Relationship”

“Don’t let your relationship become an island.” This is a phrase that I’ve heard so many speakers use at different conferences and retreats over the course of my faith journey. For many years, however, I just couldn’t wrap my head around it. I’d think to myself, “I see my family and friends every day. What’s…

Actual Practical Catholic Advice for Quitting Porn: The Ultimate Guide

Software filters, accountability partners, prayer . . . heard it all before and still struggling? You’re not alone. Let’s get as practical and real as possible – it’s time to leave porn behind, once and for all. Finally. If you’re anything like me, you’ve been frustrated with advice that’s just too lofty or flowery, vague,…

Where Can I Find the Truth of My Identity?

From the early age of five years old, I learned to root my identity in what I could do. It started as early as the T-ball days! Maybe you are like me and have been conditioned to see your value in terms of your productivity and talent. I’m here to tell you the good news- …

An Appeal to End “The Friend Zone” as We Know It

One time, a guy friend of mine was lamenting to me about being put in the “friendzone”, and it was really hard to hear his complaint knowing the honest intentions of the women on the other side. Contrary to my personality, I went on a big rant on why his use of the word “friendzone”…

Reclaiming the Breakup Culture

“Breaking up is hard to do.” Or so the saying goes. But, in all honesty,  it doesn’t have to be. Hear me out. Be honest, be intentional, and, for the love of all that is good, don’t do it over text.  Now that last part may seem silly, but I’ve witnessed it so many times…

Contraception Doesn’t Bring Freedom

I was recently talking with someone who is newly married. When he was speaking, he shared how beautiful it was to fully give of himself on his wedding night in a way he had never experienced before.  We throw around this phrase of “fully giving of ourselves,” but what does it mean? While there’s many…

Rape Isn’t All About Sex

What happens in the brain when someone is attacked by a dog? It goes into flight-or-fight mode. Their brain processes the threat in this tiny part of the brain called the amygdala, which recognizes the threat, then sends signals to the rest of the brain and body on how to best respond in order to…