Who Are You to Tell Me How to Dress?

I couldn’t agree more. The Puerto Rican in me with a strong willed personality hates the idea of being told what to do, even if it’s right. I prefer to make my own decisions, and not be held captive to someone else’s standards of what they think I should do.  When it comes to modesty…

How Pornography Stole My Trust in Men and How I Stole It Back Coping with the Way Porn Affects Those I Love

Dear Sister, The other day, I was on Google Hangouts with two of my guy friends (because #SocialDistancing) and the topic of how pornography negatively impacts dating relationships came up. One of them asked me how long I would want a man to be free from pornography before I would date them. Even though I…

Theology of the Body and Quarantine: The Invitation of Beauty

We currently find ourselves on a beautiful planet full of incredible eternal souls… trapped inside of our houses and yards. If you are anything like me, these past weeks have been hard. With a deeper ache for communion rushing to the surface of my heart, I often found myself turning on my phone as if…

Flirting. What’s the Deal?

So that special someone has caught your eye. Romance is in the air, feelings are getting caught, and by-golly you’re determined to let them know. Maybe you drop some subtle hints, tease them a little more than normal, or show them a little extra attention to try to get your point across. Maybe if they…

Love & Her Evil Step Sister: How To Tell Them Apart

Walking down the street and you feel a gaze scan your body from head to toe and maybe a whistle that follows as your back turns. Hearing what is alleged to be an affirmation that only “compliments” one part of your physique, you aren’t sure why that’s supposed to make you feel proud. Getting out…

To The Girl Who Believes “All Men Are Trash”

I was where you are. I was you. As a person who has experienced this same hurt, I’m sorry. I’m sorry it’s gotten to this point to where you’ve been hurt so badly you believe the worst in men. You deserved better out of the men in your life, and you deserve better from the…

So You Like Him. Now What?

“Does he like me or not?! I like him, but I don’t know how I could make it any clearer!” Ladies, maybe you’ve found yourself venting similar frustrations or asking the simple question, “How can I show him that I’m interested?” If so, as a member of the male species, I’m happy to offer whatever…

To The Woman Who Broke My Heart

Dear Sister, I am sorry. I’m sorry for not loving you for the fullness of who you are during our relationship. I’m sorry for the moments I desired you for only how you satisfied me, and not just for the goodness of who you are. I’m sorry for not respecting what you wanted and needed…