A Letter to the Men of God

To all the men who swim against the tide, thank you. Your presence, your strength, and your loyalty give me hope. I apologize for the times I wanted to give up on you, for all the times when I believed that no good men existed. As a woman growing up in this culture, I’ve been…

Where Are All The Men?

Many of my male friends in high school would approach me crying saying, “I will never know my father because he either left, is in jail, or was killed.” There is a desperate cry in each of our hearts to be seen, known, and loved by a father, and in the absence of fathers, boys…

Saturdays are for the (Mama’s) Boys

Bromance. A word used comically all over the globe the past few years. A label which is used to categorize male friendships that contain an intimacy few other friendships have. “Saturdays are for the boys” is a mantra that has caught on in the past year thanks to a viral meme. I’ve been known on…

Being Unreservedly Yourself

“Christian heroism, and indeed one perhaps sees little enough of that, is to risk unreservedly being oneself.” -Soren Kierkegaard Growing up in this culture can have a way of making us forget who we are and what we have been created for. As a kid, I was super into music, art, and being straight up…

Friendship with the Complementary Sex

We both left feeling unheard and rejected. My friend and I recently met with an important group of people, but left without getting a chance to share our ideas. I asked my friend what her thoughts were regarding the experience, and she expressed that, “they asked us for our opinions, but did not give us…

The Valiant Calling of Spiritual Fatherhood

I was having a particularly busy and overwhelming day. By 9 PM I closed my laptop, having just completed the last thing on my to-do list, and looked around the empty cafeteria room where I snuck away to get my last bit of work done. At that moment I felt the burdens of the day…

Masculinity and Boldness

I came across an eHarmony ad that just disturbed me. Watch it here! The title of the ad is “The Glance.” The man has his earphones in at a coffee shop and catches a glance from a pretty lady sitting across from him. He musters up courageous boldness and goes for it, introduces himself and…