Friendship with the Complementary Sex

We both left feeling unheard and rejected. My friend and I recently met with an important group of people, but left without getting a chance to share our ideas. I asked my friend what her thoughts were regarding the experience, and she expressed that, “they asked us for our opinions, but did not give us…

Reclaiming Friendship

“This is new to me.” One of my friends said this when I was explaining the concept of pursuing each other as friends. Her experience and the experience of millions of others regarding the other sex is simple: when you are drawn to someone, you simply decide when and how you are going to pursue…

The Valiant Calling of Spiritual Fatherhood

I was having a particularly busy and overwhelming day. By 9 PM I closed my laptop, having just completed the last thing on my to-do list, and looked around the empty cafeteria room where I snuck away to get my last bit of work done. At that moment I felt the burdens of the day…

Well, what makes them different?

[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1536585282446{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]I love religion. In college, I changed my major to Religious Studies so I could learn about what other people believe. Did I have a career path in mind? Not exactly, but I’d be lying if I said that I didn’t gain anything from it. Now, I’m not here to harp on…

I Don’t See Myself Changing, But…

“I don’t see myself changing, but how can I still get to what you guys are talking about?” This question was asked by one of the students we recently spoke to about living out sexual integrity. At first glance, the question seems to suggest the student was not particularly receptive to the virtue of chastity…

Into the Silence

A couple of years ago I drove my sister and her date to the prom. The venue was about an hour away from our house so I figured, instead of driving back I’ll make this a nice little ‘treat-yo-self’ evening. After dropping them off I found a highly rated Thai place. “Perfect!” I thought, “I’ll…

Shame vs. Guilt

“We all like sharing scars received in battle, the wounds of ergastulum, less.” An ergastulum was a Roman underground building with long, dark, dreary corridors used to house and work slaves. The wounds and scars received while in the ergastulum filled the enslaved with a grave sense of shame. ‘ C.S. Lewis speaks of his…

How dare you!

I remember once being at a party and overhearing these guys say “ She’s definitely fun for now, but not the type of girl you want to bring home to your mom, but I’m not looking for that girl quite yet, I am just looking to have fun.” Pause. Like what? Excuse me! I remember…