What Happened to the Gentleman?

Calling all men! Brothers, a great disservice has been inflicted on us. We live in a culture that tells us that we will find our happiness and fulfillment by living out a life of selfishness. Our culture tells us that we will be fulfilled from relationships of use, engaging in acts such as sexting and pornography. Our world tells us that our manhood is defined by a conquer and take mentality dependent on the number of women that we use.

This is largely the message that our culture preaches as seen through various media outlets that has led so many people to be unhappy pursuing different forms of temporary happiness. No wonder the divorce rate is as high as 53% and so many families have suffered effects from divorce. No wonder numerous couples are unhappy within their marriages. Well, something has to change and this change begins by our actions as a collective group.

Men, we need to stop falling for the lies of our culture and living for temporary pleasure in the present moment and realize that our choices do affect numerous people in our lives. What has happened to the “Gentleman”? Because when we look around all we see is a bunch of boys and because of this women are getting hurt. It’s time that we start to make decisions that would be the greatest act of love to others, including ourselves.

Men, we are called to lead, serve, and protect.

Today, we men have the distinct opportunity to love, serve, and protect the women present in our lives. This cycle of use has to stop brothers! We need men who are not willing to count the cost of love but instead choose to raise up the standard in our culture, a standard that’s currently very low. Think about it, since we are called to lead and in turn set low standards how do we expect women to respond? It’s time we got ourselves back in the ball game fellas.

So what can we do? How can we set that bar high and be the gentleman that God has called uso be?

1. No more pornography: pornography trains our minds to use others. It’s detrimental to all our relationships. Checkout fightthenewdrug.org to find out the biological reasons why pornography is harmful.
2. No sexting: Just don’t do it. Sexting says that woman’s value is dependent on her body alone. That’s not an impression we should ever give a woman. Rather, we as men need to protect a woman’s heart and affirm the dignity of women.
3. Be intentional: It is our job to define the present moment and provide clarity in our relationships. Are we just friends, am I interested in her? If so, let her know and ask her out on a date… use the word DATE!

Men, let’s reclaim our masculinity and live for true authentic love in all of our relationships. You know it, I know it… it’s finally time we play our vital role in this ball game that’s life.